As the dominant person, you should realize that you have some special responsibilities during the act. Your role is not only to hit and tie your partner but also to be responsible for safety. Therefore, here are some rules you should observe to ensure you’re ready.
Know your tools
Knowing your tools may indicate using a pillow in advance, then follow with a real person, curing your rope first before using it, or researching a new tool or toy before buying it. Most female doms prefer testing tools before they use them to know how impactful they are. It is also essential you know how to keep your items clean and how to store them well.
Discuss safety and limitations before your activity
It is essential to know which safe words to use, health measures, and hard and soft practices before starting a BDSM activity with anyone. You may decide to use a BDSM list to ensure that you practice all the activities.
Be Prepared for anything.
It is advisable to have everything at hand in case accidents or the unexpected happens. Something can cut a tie, such as a bolt cutter, scissors, keys for locks, fully charged mobile phone, and first aid kit. You may also need a fire extinguisher to be at stand-by. With these items at stand-by, you’ll be able to think clearly if anything happens.
Always check if your partner is okay
You should always check in if your bdsm partner is fine if he’s not using safe words. If you do it correctly, you’ll not stop your partner or interfere with the sexual process as you murmur sexily, “That is nice, isn’t it?” However, it is very recommendable to be specific and careful, especially if you’re practicing to be more authoritative or practicing with partners you’ve never been with. These mates may react differently when something good or bad occurs.
Never Leave your partner by themselves.
People usually joke about leaving their bdsm partners tied as they go to the stores, though it is unsafe to leave a tied person by themselves. The supporting rod can even smash down in case they are hanging. They may even encounter health risks like seizure, stroke, or even start nose bleeding with no one under their care.
Things to Enable You Start a Good Discussion with Your Man
If you’re thinking about starting a BDSM relationship with your partner, whether you’re thinking about purchasing a pair of handcuffs to tie him with or use whip and chains, you should start by having an open conversation with him.
Start by asking him about BDSM.
Ask your man if they are familiar with the term BDSM, what they understand about it, and whether they are interested in it. It will be ideal for creating interest for both of you and create some excitement in the relationship. You don’t want to force your man into doing what they don’t like.
Come up with a list of what you’re not content with
If you’re thinking about starting a fem dom for the first time, it would be advantageous if you both write down several kinky positions you’d like to give a shot and another list of what you don’t enjoy. If you want to try anal and don’t enjoy nipple clamps, you should talk to your partner about that and vice versa.
Use safe words all the time
It is essential to create some safe words for your bdsm partner while holding this conversation. First, select a word that you’ll use to end your love-making activity. Choose safe words like off butt, which you and your partner can use to end the game, domination, or other fetish sexual activities. By mentioning it, you’ll both discontinue the act at once and reevaluate the situation to ensure you’re all fine.
You can use safe words in different ways, like when you’re playing a role, performing masochism, sadism, submission, or dominance, or when you’re feeling uncomfortable and need a break. Typically, people use safe words to tell their partners to ‘stop’ or say ‘no’ since these words act as part of the role, more so if it involves doing very rough sex.
It is worth noting that agreement can be overlooked at any time, more so when practicing BDSM. You may not always be interested, even if you may both be having an obsession and have been into fem dom sometime back.
There should always be genuine and continuous communication regarding your boundaries, preferences, and dislikes and any other limitations between you and your partner.