Humiliation kink has become common nowadays. If you have watched “Sex education” (the British series that boldly tried to educate about sex and kinks or fetishes), you would know that being kinky are completely normal.
If your partner wants you to say abusive words, be a slave or maybe physically choke her, he/she has a humiliation kink. You may not like it and that is normal too but give it a try, you might start enjoying sex a bit more than usual. A kink or fetish often adds an edge to the arousal and to masturbation.
Definition of Humiliation Kink
When someone says, they have humiliation kink, they mean that they like to either hear humiliating and insulting things while having sex or humiliate the partner. Usually, it is limited to the sexual act only. Under no circumstances should they be called out names publicly or while not having sex. That is just not respecting their boundaries.
Types of Humiliation Kink
Mainly, there is verbal and physical humiliation kink. One of the important things to do is to know your partner’s kink descriptively. Try to know every tiny detail of his/her humiliation kink. Following is a list of humiliation kink types:
1. Verbal Humiliation
Verbal humiliation is Saying certain degrading and insulting words turns them on. Saying things like “you are a very very bad girl”, “I will show what I do to bad girls” and other similar phrases.
Also, calling your girlfriend or wife who is into verbal humiliation “whore, bitch or slut” might also be a big turn on for her. It is understandable that it is difficult for you. But think of it as a trigger for arousal and orgasm.
2. Physical Humiliation (Foot worship Humiliation):
These can be considered as a form of BDSM where you might want to tie up your partner and ask her to plead for forgiveness for being a bad girl/boy. Foot worship humiliation is one of the most common physical humiliations. You might want your partner to go around the room being tied up.
There are some other examples like asking your partner to lick your shoes, kneel in front of you, and put a collar around his/her neck and pull your partner around.
3. Erotic Humiliation
There is another form where you get your partner to the climax and don’t allow them to masturbate or stop just before they are going to. It is quite arousing and humiliating and degrading at the same time.
You may have intercourse or give a blowjob or handjob (If the humiliation kink is for a man) or use a vibrator or fingering method (if the humiliation kink is for a woman).
4. Pee Humiliation
There are some people who want to get humiliated by getting peed on themselves. It can be the other way round too (by peeing on others and humiliating them).
For example, your girlfriend might want to get peed on by kneeling in front of you. She might even want to swallow it. Having an orgasm and peeing right after might be the turn-on point for these women.
5. Public Humiliation
This is a bit extreme but there are people who might have a kink for such humiliation. The semen becomes transparent when dried. So you might want to cum on your girlfriend and wife who has a public humiliation kink and then let it dry and take her out.
Then say things like “what is this on your face? I can’t even take you out properly” and peel off the cum. It is very degrading and insulting and she would love it. But the whole act must be discussed.
How to Find a Partner for Humiliation Kink?
Finding the right partner is important when you have a humiliation kink or want to dominate someone with a humiliation kink. Also, you both might have different forms of humiliating kink but may not like each other’s kink. It is normal. The best thing to do is try. You can find the right partner on the best:
- BDSM dating sites,
- BDSM online workshops,
- BDSM singles parties or
- By going to nightclubs or strip clubs.
Those are some interesting ways to spice up your sex life. Think of humiliation kink as a role play and not like it is a real thing. Just go along with it and you might love it sooner than you would have thought.
Many dating experts say that trying something new is always good and exciting especially when a kink is involved. If certain things like choking are involved, make sure you don’t choke too hard and not for too long. Try to use aseptic methods of humiliation kinks. Safety is of utmost importance. And don’t forget to have fun!